A place where people like you choose to heal through Christ because we have all had enough! The CR program will support you in a safe, confidential setting. No matter the hurt, habit or hang-up, Jesus and other participants meet you right where you are on a life-changing 12-step journey.
Celebrate Recovery meets each Friday.
Main Session: 7-8 p.m. in room 317
Breakout Sessions: 8-9 p.m.
The purpose of Celebrate Recovery is to fellowship and celebrate God’s healing power in our lives through eight recovery principles and a Christ-centered 12 step program. This experience allows us to be changed. We open the door by sharing our experiences, strengths and hopes with one another. In addition, we become willing to accept God’s grace in solving our life problems.
By working through the steps and applying their biblical principles, we begin to grow spiritually. We become free from our habitual, compulsive and dysfunctional behaviors. This freedom creates peace, serenity, joy and a stronger personal relationship with God and others.
As we progress through the principles, we discover our personal, loving and forgiving Higher Power — Jesus Christ.
We all have ungodly and unhealthy methods for handling life. The Bible says all of us have sinned. Not one of us is untainted, and because of sin, we’ve all hurt ourselves, we’ve all hurt other people, and others have hurt us. Each of us needs repentance and recovery in order to live our lives the way God intended.
The goal of Celebrate Recovery is to recover from past sins and hurts and to become Christ-like in our character.
What Can I Expect?
Each Friday night session begins at 7 p.m. with a praise and worship time, followed by prayer and testimony/teaching time. The group then breaks into small groups for discussions.
Celebrate Recovery Small Groups…
- Provide you a safe place to share your experiences, strengths and hopes with others who are going through a Christ-centered recovery.
- Provide you with a leader who has gone through a similar hurt, habit or hang-up and who will facilitate the group as it focuses on a particular step each week.
- Provide you with the opportunity to find an accountability partner or a sponsor.
- Encourage you to attend other recovery meetings held throughout the week.
- Attempt to offer any professional clinical advice. Our leaders are not counselors. At your request, we can provide you with a list of approved counseling referrals.
- Allow its members to “fix” one another.
Women’s Eating Disorders
Meet with other women who struggle with overeating or food deprivation.
A women’s support and recovery group for those struggling with overeating or food deprivation. Experience support, care and hope at this new group that meets as part of Celebrate Recovery at 7 p.m. Fridays on the third floor of Pleasant Valley Baptist Church. The women’s group is at 8 p.m. following the large group session.
For more information, contact Sharon Jones at 816.781.5959 x218.
CO-DEPENDENCY / ENABLING
Here are some resources to help you learn more about co-dependency and enabling. The women’s codependency group meets at 8 p.m. every Friday on the third floor of Pleasant Valley Baptist Church. Come to the church at 7 p.m. for a time of worship and renewal as a part of the Celebrate Recovery program.
- _____ I feel guilty about others’ feelings and behaviors
- _____ I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling.
- _____ I am afraid of my anger, yet sometimes erupt in rage.
- _____ I worry how others may respond to my feelings, opinions, and behavior.
- _____ I have difficulty making decisions.
- _____ I am afraid of being hurt and/or rejected by others.
- _____ I minimize, alter, or deny how I truly feel.
- _____ I am very sensitive to how others are feeling and feel the same.
- _____ I am afraid to express differing opinions or feelings.
- _____ I value others’ opinions and feelings more than my own.
- _____ I put other people’s needs and desires before mine.
- _____ I am embarrassed to receive recognition and praise, or gifts.
- _____ I judge everything I think, say, or do harshly, as never “good enough.”
- _____ I am perfectionistic.
- _____ I am extremely loyal, remaining in harmful situations too long.
- _____ I do not ask others to meet my needs or desires.
- _____ I do not perceive myself as a lovable and worthwhile person.
- _____ I compromise my own values and integrity to avoid rejection or others’ anger.If you can identify with four or more of the above statements, you should keep reading.
ENABLING is defined as reacting to a person in such a way to shield him or her from experiencing the full impact of the harmful consequences of behavior. Enabling behavior differs from helping in that it permits or allows the person to be irresponsible.
PROTECTION from natural consequences of behavior.
KEEPING SECRETS about behavior from others in order to keep peace.
MAKING EXCUSES for the behavior. (School, friends, legal authorities, work, other family members)
BAILING OUT of trouble. (Debts, fixing tickets, paying lawyers, providing jobs.)
BLAMING OTHERS for dependent person’s behavior. (Friends, teachers, employers, family, SELF.)
SEEING THE PROBLEM AS THE RESULT OF SOMETHING ELSE. (Shyness, adolescence, loneliness, child, broken home.)
AVOIDING the chemically dependent person in order to keep peace. (Out-of-sight, out-of-mind.)
GIVING MONEY THAT IS UNDESERVED/UNEARNED.
ATTEMPTING TO CONTROL. (Planning activities, choosing friends, getting jobs.)
MAKING THREATS that have no follow-through or consistency.
TAKING CARE OF the chemically dependent person. Doing what he/she should be expected to do for themselves.)
What is Codependence?
- My good feelings about who I am stem from being loved by you.
- My good feelings about who I am stem from receiving approval from you.
- Your struggle affects my serenity. My mental attention focuses on solving your problems or relieving your pain.
- My mental attention is focused on pleasing you.
- My mental attention is focused on protecting you.
- My self-esteem is bolstered by relieving your pain.
- My own hobbies and interests are put aside. My time is spent sharing your interests and hobbies.
- Your clothing and personal appearance are dictated by my desires as I feel you are a reflection of me.
- Your behavior is dictated by my desires as I feel you are a reflection of me.
- I am not aware of how I feel. I am aware of how you feel.
- I am not aware of what I want – I ask what you want. I am not aware – I assume.
- The dreams I have for my future are linked to you.
- My fear of rejection determines what I say or do.
- My fear of your anger determines what I say or do.
- I use giving as a way of feeling safe in our relationship
- My social circle diminishes as I involve myself with you
- I put my values aside in order to connect with you.
- I value your opinion and way of doing things more than my own.
- The quality of my life is in direct relation to the quality of yours.
Women in Recovery from Abuse
Do you struggle with the effects of physical, emotional, verbal, mental, spiritual or sexual abuse? Find support and recovery from abuse in this confidential group Fridays at 8 pm., third floor of Pleasant Valley Baptist Church.
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Want a life-changing experience? Attend Celebrate Recovery Fridays at 7 p.m. third floor of Pleasant Valley Baptist Church to be involved in a recovery group that could place you and/or a loved one on a
Christ centered path of recovery.
This is a Christ-centered recovery group for women in recovery from past physical and/or sexual abuse. One of the keys to success in recovery programs in the coming together of people with similar backgrounds who also have common goals and objectives. Our common background is a history of abuse, and our goal is to enter into or maintain recovery. Recovery for us is a twofold issue. We need healing from the traumas done to us at some time in our past; we also need healing from the influence these past experiences continue to have on our present lives.
For the newcomer, the program can be a place to recognize and identify core issues resulting from past abuse. The newcomer can receive validation, understanding and knowledge of appropriate action to take by practicing the principles and steps among other Christian women.
For the “old-timers,” those women with the same issues but who have already begun the road to recovery, this recovery group can provide a place in which to continue the recovery process.
One of our objectives is to provide a supportive and safe environment. The leader alone cannot assure that; it has to be a group effort. We respect and acknowledge each woman’s right to be where she needs to be on her own road to recovery. We acknowledge the sensitivity we need to have for each member of this group. Therefore, we have a few reminders that are not meant to offend, but to ensure the safety and anonymity of each woman present. “What you hear here, let it stay here.”
As with any other Christ-centered recovery group, we believe that by our participation through active listening, sharing and application of the steps and principles to our lives, the Holy Spirit will guide us to further understanding, healing and wholeness.
We are not here to lecture, preach, fix or provide therapy. We are here to tell our stories. We come together to share in our weakness, for it is in our weakness that we gain strength. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 says, “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work. If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”
Accountability is another advantage in coming together as a group. We can look to others to honestly let us know how we are doing in our recovery. “Old-timers” or sponsors can help us see where we may be stuck or provide us with a safe “sounding board” so that we can hear ourselves.
Another advantage is the sharing of encouragement. The center of the word encouragement is courage. Sometimes we need others around us who have been there to give us courage to be where we are to take action.
Developing a support system is integral to the program. We find we are not alone. Others share similar stories. Support can be expanded to include phone calls with other willing members of the group. Support could also include seeking out a sponsor for added encouragement.
An important advantage is the prayer support. We can join together in prayer against any of Satan’s strongholds that may be keeping us from maturing as Christians or limiting our recovery.
When we come together, we share spiritual gifts.
One last advantage is that together we multiply the witness of Christ. We are not an accident. God created us to reflect the grace and love of Jesus Christ as we move through our recoveries.
Women’s addictive/compulsive behaviors
The women attending this group support one another with alcohol, drug, gambling, compulsive spending and other addictive, compulsive behaviors. The Christ-centered group encourages those to realize their lives have become unmanagable, Jesus loves them through the path of recovery.
Men’s Sexual Integrity Group
If you struggle with sexual integrity, you are not alone. Achieve sexual sobriety and integrity through the twelve steps and from a group who has applied the biblical principles of recovery to heal.
Men’s Sexual Integrity (MSI) is a Christ-centered recovery group for men seeking recovery from lust and compulsive sexual behaviors. The cornerstone for our recovery is the power and love of Jesus Christ. Our recovery “house” is built upon the fellowship of the group, having a safe place to share our struggles, pain and victories, the accountability of the group and the mutual support of group members throughout the week.
How do you know if MSI is for you? We offer the following observations of what is true for us…
We share a common experience of engaging in sexual behaviors which are demoralizing and demeaning to ourselves or another and which we seem to be unable to stop, even in spite of the adverse consequences to our lives. We have sacrificed relationships, jobs or our humanity, and yet we continued to engage in these damaging and compulsive sexual behaviors.
Many of us share a common history of some type of childhood abuse. We were yelled at or told we were worthless or stupid or ugly. Today we recognize these as emotional abuse. We were neglected, knocked down or struck with objects. Today we know this to be physical abuse. Lastly, we were touched, pawed and coerced or forced into sexual activities. Today we call this sexual abuse. Whatever abuses we suffered, we learned that, to survive, we had to find a way to not feel the overwhelming and unbearable pain.
Instinctively, we built walls around our hearts. Lust is a magical wall in that gives the illusion of connection. So we feel safe, but we remain alone inside our prisons. Unconsciously, we knew that we were somehow defective, that we were different from other human beings and not normal. Sex with ourselves or with others gave us the illusion of acceptance and, thus, the cure to our worthlessness. We needed a constant supply of sexual activity to stay cured. To lust is to live. Lust had become the most important thing in our lives. Some of us were willing to risk and lose everything to get and keep it. Only where we came face to face with the truth that lust was a liar did we become willing to let it go. Lust promises to connect us with others and make us whole. But it never does.
We have accepted that we cannot control our lustful thoughts and behaviors in our own strength. We have learned that through the power of Jesus Christ we can live sober lives, one minute at a time and one day at a time. If you identify with these issues, and if you are weary form your struggle, then we invite you to fellowship with us as we daily seek the Lord’s guidance on our journey of Men’s Sexual Integrity.
Condensed and adapted from Renewal from Sexual Addiction’s “The Problem” and “The Solution”
Men’s Substance Abuse Group
The men’s substance abuse group faces our powerlessness to control when and if we will use our substance of choice. Develop fellowship, friendships and accountability with each other.
Do you have a compulsion to use alcohol, drugs, prescription drugs, tobacco or other substances as an escape? In the Men’s Substance Abuse Group, we all face our powerlessness to control when and if we will use our substance of choice. We develop fellowship, friendships and accountability with each other. We support each other as we grow in our relationship with Christ.
Men’s Relationship and Codependency
If you struggle with an unhealthy relationship or the effects of codependency (loss of your identity and choices in dealing with others), come to this group.
If you struggle with an unhealthy relationship or the effects of codependency (loss of your identity and choices in dealing with others), come to this group. Meets Friday at 8:00 pm in room 309. Call Jeff Baird in the church office at extension 235 or email email@example.com
In Celebrate Recovery, we work through these 12 steps:
- We admitted we were powerless over our addictions and compulsive behaviors, that our lives had become unmanageable.
I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. (Romans 7:18)
- We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
For it is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose. (Philippians 2:13)
- We made a decision to turn our lives and our wills over to the care of God.
Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God-this is your spiritual act of worship. (Romans 12:1)
- We made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Let us examine our ways and test them, and let us return to the Lord. (Lamentations 3:40)
- We admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. (James 5:16)
- We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up. (James 4:10)
- We humbly asked Him to remove all our shortcomings.
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. (1 John 1:9)
- We made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
Do to others as you would have them do to you. (Luke 6:31)
- We made direct amends to such people whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift. (Matthew 5:23-24)
- We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall! (1 Corinthians 10:12)
- We sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and power to carry that out.
Let the work of Christ dwell in you richly. (Colossians 3:16)
- Having had a spiritual experience as the result of these steps, we try to carry this message to others and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. (Galatians 6:1)